call me robert.

"in all my ways, all my strengths, and lessons; sometimes I’m still only as strong as my flesh..."

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 01:24:30 -0400

“in all my ways, all my strengths, and lessons; sometimes I’m still only as strong as my flesh is weak.”

Some things just suck.

Fri, 22 Mar 2013 13:40:15 -0400

Crappy jobs. Forehead pimples. Break-ups. Stale donuts. Frost bitten ice cream. Running out of toilet paper. Untimely deaths. Two weeks without Scandal, etc. Things suck.

The fact remains- the show must go on.

Fret Not! Gird up your loins put on your brave face and press on. Remember, everything is a learning experience, an opportunity to become stronger and wiser. Doesn’t mean you won’t feel the frustration or discomfort or hurt from your less than desirable circumstance. It just means that on the other side of it all is something worth wild, hard to believe at times but it’s true- trust me.

Be ready for it, because life happens in the blink of an eye.

W/ Love,

Robert

the homie @maxwell. coolest guy. #beenthrill

Thu, 21 Mar 2013 15:54:47 -0400

the homie @maxwell. coolest guy. #beenthrill

classic bilal.

Fri, 15 Mar 2013 04:06:20 -0400

classic bilal.

secret place.

Thu, 14 Mar 2013 15:07:23 -0400

And my spirit cried…

What about me?
What about the desires of my heart? Feed me!… Clothe meeee!…
Bathe me in the word of God, fragrance me with his grace and mercy! Take care of me, too. I like nice things, too.
And what about the love of my life? You know who he is and yet you keep me from him daily. Why must you be so selfish? If you keep me in sync with my love I will show you yours. What about me?

simple. frustration & discord is the result of ignoring what...

Thu, 28 Feb 2013 13:50:31 -0500

simple. frustration & discord is the result of ignoring what is best for you (within reason), for the sake of another. How can two walk together unless they agree? (Amos 3:3) #knowyourword #tryyourbest #stayforward #goodthingscome

like a moth to a flame burned by the fire…

Wed, 27 Feb 2013 03:13:42 -0500

like a moth to a flame burned by the fire…

Photo

Thu, 07 Feb 2013 15:09:08 -0500

Atlantis.

Thu, 07 Feb 2013 15:08:34 -0500

Atlantis.

why see the world?

Thu, 07 Feb 2013 15:07:47 -0500

why see the world?

it is so. @pyermoss #pyermoss #menswear #fashion

Mon, 28 Jan 2013 13:19:53 -0500

it is so. @pyermoss #pyermoss #menswear #fashion

“gonna be a real good morning, got my angels going before...

Mon, 28 Jan 2013 10:15:46 -0500

“gonna be a real good morning, got my angels going before me, gonna be a real good morning- I’m declaring it!” #21:03 #BrandNewDay #GoodMusic #MorningAnthem @evinamiri

midnight madness. @yhyflavor #masterbarber #exclusive #lifesaver...

Wed, 05 Dec 2012 23:42:45 -0500

midnight madness. @yhyflavor #masterbarber #exclusive #lifesaver (at Adrian Fanus Grooming)

it's real.

Mon, 03 Dec 2012 22:26:32 -0500

It’s all about desire and interest!

Let’s break this down, shall we.

|desire|- a strong feeling of wanting to have something or someone

strong sexual feeling or appetite

|interest|- the state of wanting to know or learn about something or someone

the quality of exciting curiosity or holding the attention
a subject about which one is concerned or enthusiastic

mmmhhmmmm… definitions are like scripture sometimes, Amen!!!! Makes you wanna wave yo hands, scrunch yo face, and hum! Y’all ain’t ready today. Y’all ain’t ready!

Relationships are all about desire and interest. PLAIN & SIMPLE. Who doesn’t like to be looked forward to? Who doesn’t like to know they’re being thought about? Who doesn’t like to be sought after? I can’t think of one person who can earnestly say, “Not me.”

Gentlemen and Ladies alike, let’s start taking that extra time to make sure the person you’re with knows where you want to be. It’s as simple as mid-day text message. A “while I’m on lunch” phone call. An invitation, yes- we MIGHT unusually be welcome but appease me. I mean summons my presence, caress my ego a bit, don’t be shy or shamed.

Which brings me to my next point- Affirmation. Relationships should be fun, stress relieving. Honestly at this stage in our lives we’re trying to figure out who we are, what we want and how we plan to get there. We only have room for ego boosters. Especially in a relationship. There’s enough adversity in the midst who wants to sleep with it. If you’re not with someone who’s building you up, making you feel good about yourself, encouraging you to do something and be something then you need to get out of that situation as fast you can. That’s death! No life there.

This is not about smothering one another. I repeat THIS IS NOT ABOUT SMOTHERING one another. In fact, the need to spend so much time together probably won’t be as frequent if there were more simple points of contact throughout the day. I don’t need to be up under you I just want to know that you like it when I am, even when I’m not… If that makes any sense.

Listen, bottom line- don’t be selfish. Give, and if you chose correctly, whomever you’re with will give back to you. Don’t settle, respectfully bow out of a situation if you find that it isn’t fair nor comparable to you or your efforts. Oh, compromise and communicate, nobody is perfect. Also, stop expecting the MOST from nothing MUCH. You can’t be upset when you get what you paid for.

Have fun. Be safe. Be worth it. Choose wisely.

Robert

hurt me.

Mon, 03 Dec 2012 22:09:40 -0500

hurt me.

word.

Sun, 25 Nov 2012 12:12:04 -0500

word.

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Fri, 16 Nov 2012 14:52:41 -0500

I miss my friend... :-( (repost from '10)"

Fri, 02 Nov 2012 20:21:44 -0400

“Is that Robert? Good… Good”

“Life is like a box of chocolates you never know what you’re gonna it”!
Before I went to work today I decided that I needed to blog because I’ve been totally inconsistent but I had absolutely nothing worth saying but after this great day at work I’m so full! So let’s start from the top!

When I first started work as a caretaker it was solely for the pay, money was tight, bills were due and rent was late! So when I got word of the position I apprehensively, jumped on it. Although, it isn’t hard to believe that I would be the type to have a job in which I can help and encourage people to continue fighting and living, however, it is hard to believe that I would be the type to change a diaper that isn’t my child’s…. Again I say “MY” child, not my niece not my nephew not my god-child but “my” child especially the diaper of a grown man almost 4x’s my senior. So imagine my surprise as I began see that working with Pitaji, an 86 year old man from India, would be the best and most humbling experience of my life to date.

I wish I had the chance to sit down with more wise elders for a lil chitchat, I’m sure I’d learn sooo much! On the other hand tho, sometimes while shooting the breeze with Pitaji it makes me think about what I missed not having grandparents. It’s funny because today Pitaji asked me how my grandfather was and I said, “Hell you tell me cuz I’ve never met them guys” and he chuckled! Lately, I’ve taken to him as a grandfather figure because he’s always giving me words of wisdom! Like today, he told me how he tried to empty his urostomy bag and left it open causing a big mess, he said, “One mistake can turn into mayhem, but what can you do”! I swear y’all Pitaji is fooling us all, I think when everyone leaves the house he goes out for a jog and to the 24hr Wal-Mart! That’s prolly why he’s been so tired during the day Lol…

But I can always tell what kinda day it’s gonna be by they way he greets me when I come in the house, if he says, “Hello hello, how are you? Is that Robert? Good Good” *thick india accent*then it’s gonna be a good day but If I walk in and hear,”Come hear please, please come now” I might heavily consider letting him sit on the couch for 3hrs lol cuz it’s about to be rough! Many of you that also follow me on twitter have the first look into some of my hilarious experiences with Pitaji and I’m sure we keep you entertained! Like Pitaji’s imitation of Bibiji’s
(his wife) parkinson’s disease shakes!!!! Lol if you’re not following join the club!

www.twitter.com/trevance

Any-who the reason I was so inspired to write this blog was because at the end of tonights shift Pitaji did not want me to leave but I figured what’s new he’s like a kid on christmas eve when it comes to bedtime, I’m actually quite sure he suffers from “CINEMAX SYNDROME” *check previous blogs for clarification* lol but tonight he took it to another level. I took him to his room put him to bed and as I gather up my things to leave I hear the raddle of a walker coming down the hallway and he says, “please wait, don’t go, I can turn on the T.V if you can wait”. #FACT Pitaji is not a TV watcher so that freaked me out, in fact I’ve never seen him touch the remote. Now, honestly, it was 10:05pm and I was ready to go so I said I couldn’t I have to go, he asked again and continued to offer to turn on the TV. So I said to him, “you really want don’t want me to leave” and he said, “No” with such a desperate face so you know me… I took off my coat and said, “ok, 15minutes” we sit down and of course he doesn’t know how to work the TV so he asks me to do it and we proceed to watch what I assume is the indian version of CNN I suppose. But anyway, he looks at me and out of his mouth he says, “You are a good person, I really like you”. If you don’t know, I’m a sucker for sincere affirmation. I looked at him overwhelmed and I said, “I really like you too, ur great”. From there he just started talking about the corruption in India and how it’s Britains fault and how punishment and death penalty for murder does nothing cuz their life won’t bring back the life lost! He talked about how people say his son does a great job of taking care of them and he said, “it’s because we were parents to him so he treats us like parents, he takes care.”

I was in awe…. I stayed for the entire news segment and then he said, “thank you very much for staying, you can go if you want”. —I know that this is a very long story but it means so much to me. I’m so blessed, no matter what or who was lacking from my life, I’ve always had some form of positive influence or outlet! To have such a wise and faith filled *he’s not christian but still*, caring, man of substance recognize goodness in my character so much so to insist upon my company really moves me! It makes me proud of who I am. I may not be proud of all I’ve done but I’m proud of who I am and who I will become. And get this I didn’t even log in my extra hour! Ha! It was my pleasure!

-Rob

"inspiration is life. living is inspiration."

Fri, 26 Oct 2012 15:54:38 -0400

“inspiration is life. living is inspiration.”

claudekelly: Quote from one of my FAV novels:”Shantaram” (Taken...

Sun, 21 Oct 2012 13:48:36 -0400

claudekelly:

Quote from one of my FAV novels:”Shantaram” (Taken with Instagram)